All relationships can be difficult at times, especially ones you’d rather avoid like the one with your obnoxious co-worker. I like to look at these situations as tests of my character. I aim to always be the bigger person, a good friend, a professional, but the truth is, it takes work. The great news about the work we put in to how we connect with others is it can be very rewarding for everyone involved.
Recently I got in a fight with my best friend who recently told me he was gay and I’m not sure how to help him. He is in a dark place now. Any advice on how I can help him get through this tough time?
Sometimes the best thing we can do for someone is be present and be positive. Sounds like your best friend could really use his best friend’s support right now. Be the light when he’s in a dark place. Meaning, pull him out of his funk in any way you
can! Plan a movie night complete with his favorite snacks and a really funny movie or go do something silly (roller skating, paintball) to take his mind off anything that is stressing him out. If he wants to talk about what he’s going through, listen, be kind, and give him tons of love because that’s what best friends do!
My name is Michela, I’m a sophomore in high school and I’ve been working at this restaurant for some years now and there’s this coworker who I can’t stand to work with. I don’t know what to do anymore. My mom keeps telling me that later in life I
am going to have to learn how to work with the people I hate. I don’t have any clue how to do that so do you have any advice? Thanks so much and miss having you as a judge!
Don’t be mad at me for saying this, but, you’re mom is so right! There will always be somebody who drives you nuts somewhere in your life. Is it possible to find one or two good qualities in this coworker that you can appreciate? Take this situation as a personal challenge to rise above the negativity you’re taking on. When he does something that drives you crazy, take a deep breath, refocus on something positive, and if you feel it’s best, walk away to get some space. Try your best not to exude bad energy by rolling your eyes, making a mean comment, gossiping, or doing anything that would make you any less awesome. Remember, you can’t change other people but you can change yourself.
Are there any readers out there with advice for Savannah or Michela? Please share!