Ask Jules vol. 3

This week in my Ask Jules column I decided to slip-on my Cupid wings and address a few of my romantic readers.

I was wandering if you can tell me how you would like to be approached by a guy you do not know and be asked out?
– Steve

Hi Steve!
When it comes to approaching someone you don’t know and asking them out, the key is to come off confident, comfortable, and above all – not creepy. When I was single, I always appreciated it when someone started a conversation with me before jumping to asking me out. If they could make me laugh or smile in a way that didn’t feel too aggressive, it put me at ease and allowed me to open up.

Pay attention for opportunities to start a conversation. If you’re both in the cereal section at the grocery store, ask a question about the box she’s holding or make a joke about all the choices. Breaking the ice is the best way to start.

What do you think, readers? Help Steve out in the comments! How do you like to be approached and asked out?


Hey, Jules!
Can I just start off by saying I love you so much! I think that you’re an incredible dancer and actress who is extremely talented! So I am 15 – and I haven’t had my first kiss. So many people my age have done way more than that, and I guess that in a way I feel like I’m missing out or am to be honest a bit lame. Boys have liked me before but I just haven’t kissed anyone. How old were you when you had your first kiss?

Thank you!

Hi Beth,
Your first kiss is a big deal! You’re not missing out because it will happen for you when it is supposed to and you are absolutely not lame! There is no right age for anything. Everyone is on their own timeline, doing things when it’s right for them.


Hi Jules,
I don’t know if you will have the time to read this, but here goes anyway! I am from South Africa, recently met the love of my life in the USA, and we got married. I have so much to be grateful for! But… I have had trouble making friends. People are different here, and all my best friends since childhood are a million miles away! Do you have any advice for making friends and settling in?

Also I wanted to say thank you for always being so positive and kind and an example, the world sees that. And you are changing it into a better place for all of us!! You inspire me.

I hope I get to meet you someday.

Frankie xoxoxo

Hi Frankie!
I certainly know a thing or two about moving far from home and having to make new friends. The best advice I have is to join groups or take classes where you’ll meet people with similar interests. As far as making friends with other couples, I’d take the same approach. Try local cooking classes, team sports, or other activities couples like to do together.

On the bright side, at least you have each other until you find others!

Congratulations on your wedding, and thank you for all the kind words.


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Comments 2

  1. Love the great tips and tricks. I too haven’t had my first kiss (or first boyfriend) and I’m 15. I’m with you Beth. We just have to wait for the perfect person 🙂

  2. Steve,i agree with Jules,but i think that when you approach a girl you should definitely stay away from cheesy pick up lines.Just introduce yourself in a nice way ,cause girls appreciate basic and simple manners.

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