Ask Jules vol. 7: Wedding Edition
These Ask Jules emails stood out to me as I was reading all your great letters last week. What can I say, I have bride on the brain! While I’m still learning as I go through the process of planning my own wedding, I do know a thing or two when it comes to certain nuptial-related scenarios.
As always, I’d love for all of you to leave your best advice, too! It takes a village, after all. 🙂
My fiancé and I have never stepped foot on a dance floor. We’re getting married in April and after watching so many gorgeous slow dances on dwts we would love to have a beautiful first dance! What type/style of dance would you recommend that will be the easiest to pick up for us beginners but still be breathtaking!? We’ll be dancing to “The Luckiest” by Ben Folds!
Thank you so so much!!
Melanie & Drew
Melanie & Drew,
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! You should research videos for the Viennese Waltz. It’s a very romantic ballroom dance that can be done at a fast or slow tempo. It’s very popular at weddings because it’s traditional, sweet and not incredibly hard to follow. Have fun!
I am 18 years old and I have a 21 year old brother who is getting married in a year. My brother and I are very very close and ever since I was a little girl I just assumed that I would be a bridesmaid in his wedding. I have known his fiancée for over five years now and I would consider her one of my best friends, but in talking about the wedding she said that she didn’t want my sister and I to be in it.
This hurts because she is my friend and soon to be sister and I don’t understand why she wouldn’t want me to be a part of her big day. Do I leave it alone and just continue feeling hurt about it? Do I let her know how I feel? I don’t want to make it seem like her wedding day is all about me, but I still want to be a part of it.
I’m so sorry you are feeling left out. It’s understandable and very sweet that you want to have a role in their special day.
I’m sure your brother and his fiancée both love you very much, and their decision about who will be in the wedding party was not one that was taken lightly. As someone who is going through this right now, I can tell you there is a lot of anxiety about hurt feelings.
My best advice is this: although you might have hurt feelings, you have to remember they are doing what they think is best for them, and because you love them, you have to trust their decision. In fact, a great way to show how excited you are about their big day and let them know you want to support them would be to tell them you’d love to help out any way you can — and truly mean it!
The very best gift you can give them is to be supportive, because weddings are full of unexpected guilt trips and anxieties and they’ll love you forever for your unconditional love, help and happiness!
My name is Hayley, and like yourself I am recently engaged and getting married next year (congratulations by the way to you and your fiancé). I loved watching all of your dance videos, whether it be a work out or a samba dance from Dancing with the Stars seven years ago!
I really would love to do a funky, quirky first dance at the wedding but I cannot afford dance lessons as I was recently in a car accident, so I was wondering if you could please give me some tips on what to do or at least point me in the right direction for some videos to watch?
Hope to hear from you soon!
I love quirky and fun viral-worthy videos! The most unexpected and exciting songs to dance to are usually pop or hip hop — something fun and unexpected like Beyoncé or Britney Spears. Definitely hit up youtube for inspiration. Type phrases like “awesome wedding dance” or “Beyoncé wedding dance” into the search engine.
I can’t wait to hear what you come up with!
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