The other day, I was grabbing a tea to go when I couldn’t help but overhear a conversation between two girls in line behind me. One friend said to the other, “Oh, how is Jen? Is she still with that guy?” The girl paused for a moment then said, “She’s not.” When pressed for more information, she squashed the topic by saying, “I don’t want to tell her story. It’s not mine to tell, you know?” I love that.
Gossip doesn’t always have to equate to meanness. It’s simply talking about other people’s business. Even if there wasn’t any drama behind their friend’s breakup, it’s her story. I will be honest sometimes I’ll catch myself telling other people’s stories. “Did you hear she got a new job?” “She told me she’s chopping off all her hair!” “He has been crushing on that girl for months.”
This is all pretty innocent information — but it’s not my info to give. I’m going to make a conscience effort inspired by the non-gossip girls and use their line next time someone wants the scoop: It’s not my story to tell.
Let’s all give this one a try?
What do you think about gossip? Do you and your friends have a policy?