My Mom Marriann On Being A Mother
My mom is one of the most beautiful, kind and inspiring people I know. I am aware that I’m fortunate to have such a wonderful figure in my life, so I’d like to share her message with you all. No matter who you’re celebrating today, this note is not only for me but to you too.
There are no words that can describe the feeling of the moment right after childbirth. The first of course is of great relief! Followed by one of exhilaration at the precious moment when your sweet baby is placed in your arms. The overwhelming love, gratitude and privilege floods over you with a flurry of other emotions. The weight of responsibility and hoping you can measure up to the mother you esteem yourself to be holds your heart hostage. Last but definitely not least the instinctual momma bear syndrome sets in.
As far back as I can remember when others would ask me the proverbial question, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” I always responded, “I want to be a mother.” Being young myself served me well because I too was like a kid having fun, playing, learning and making mistakes right along with my kids. I liked having fun and being silly, loving and supportive. The forever cheerleader, I wanted my children to be independent and unafraid, to experience life, take their own journeys. I didn’t realize just how independent they would all become and leave… Ha!
As I reflect back as a mother, I believe besides exposing my children to many opportunities, learning experiences, good eating habits, offering some direction and of course trying to keep them from getting hurt, I would say love is the most powerful. My mother loved me and that love has carried me through many hard times. Knowing she supported me, shared my feelings, offered a shoulder to cry on, acting as a sounding board and loving me through my mistakes, she was my biggest cheerleader. Those examples of her love spilled over into my life as a mother.
To all my children: I adore you. You light up my life when I get down. Life is magical in the eyes of a child. So always remember the child inside you who is perfectly hopeful and creative, up to solve any problem. When life’s challenges become overwhelming… STOP. Take a moment to turn up the music, tell puppet stories on the grass, give hugs and listen to others. Sometimes you can give up but never give in. Above all, always remember… this Momma truly loves you.