Spring cleaning isn’t just about freshening up your physical space. It can also be a great time to clean up certain aspects of our lives, giving us a chance to go into the new season refreshed and ready. I thought about some of the areas of my life that could use a good dusting and below is what I came up with. Do you have any to add?
Touch up my relationships.
It’s easy to let distance and time take you away from the ones you love. I am proud of my relationship with one of my best friends, Maude. She might live what feels like a million miles away, but we make an effort to touch base as often as possible. That’s why we’ve been able to maintain a friendship since we were ten years old!
Still, there are people in my life I haven’t been so great at keeping in touch with. Often they cross my mind and I say to myself, “I should really check in with them.” This month, I will set aside some extra time to reach out to the people on that list. Bonus points for handwritten letters!
Clean out my to-do list.
We all have that growing list of things we really have to do, or we really should do, or whatever the status may be. I’ll get to it when I get to it, right?? This ongoing list of tiny tasks gives me major anxiety. I mean, some of the things on my looming list are: clean out the trunk of my car, organize my junk drawer, look over the expiration dates on my spices — you get the idea. This is the season of no to-do lists! I’ve committed to doing at least one item per weekend. The funny thing is, once I get started I know it will go quickly! It’s just the getting started part that’s so hard.
My gift to myself is going to be clearing my conscious of these nagging tasks. Consider the whole thing checked! (Seriously this time.)
De-clutter my schedule.
I’m a firm believe that a little routine goes a long way. I like to have standing days and times for workouts, hikes with Lexi and Harley, date nights with Brooks, time with my girls, and, equally important, some ME time. Knowing what lies ahead week after week makes me feel organized, and with the Move Tour right around the corner, I need all the organization and sanity I can possibly get. I’ve decided that every little item I schedule over the next few months will be something that is either essential to my professional life or something that will bring me great joy in my personal life. Nothing else!
All relationships can be difficult at times, especially ones you’d rather avoid like the one with your obnoxious co-worker. I like to look at these situations as tests of my character. I aim to always be the bigger person, a good friend, a professional, but the truth is, it takes work. The great news about the work we put in to how we connect with others is it can be very rewarding for everyone involved.
Recently I got in a fight with my best friend who recently told me he was gay and I’m not sure how to help him. He is in a dark place now. Any advice on how I can help him get through this tough time?
It’s very easy to crash your own pity party when something doesn’t go as planned or as hoped for. We know that in life, the rug is going to get pulled out from under our toes. Somebody is going to do something that makes us angry or upset. We are going to make choices that don’t serve us well, and we will end up paying the consequences. These things are inevitable. We can’t always control the negative things that happen in our lives, but what we can do is figure out how to pull ourselves back up, put the pieces back together, and move forward.
“Identify your problems, but give your power and energy to solutions.” — Tony Robins
To me, this quote encourages us to acknowledge the things that aren’t working out in our favor, but only giving it a moment of our attention. Then, rather than dwelling on the negativity, we shift our focus, honing in on what we are going to do about it.
We all have that one friend who despises his or her job and complains about it nonstop. If they listened to Tony Robbins, they’d be proactive in finding a solution such as meeting with a recruiter, submitting applications elsewhere, or taking online courses required for a job they would find joy in. This is something we’re all guilty of at some point, for a variety of reasons.
When it comes to strong and loving relationships, one of my biggest role models is my sister Sharee. With almost 20 years of marriage behind her and many more to come, she always has the best advice for couples. I asked her to share with us her top tips for a lasting relationship and here’s what she had to say…
1. Always do a weekly date night!
It’s important to nurture your relationship and spend quality time together. Randall and I have a very busy schedule, but we always make a date night every week, even if it’s just for an hour. We spend so much time caring for our six children that sometimes we forget to take care of each other. But if we don’t then the very basis and core of our family isn’t strong so we make it our first priority.
While stepping out to a special restaurant is always appreciated, sometimes staying in and preparing a beautiful meal means so much more. To go the extra mile and set the mood for a romantic dinner neither of you will soon forget, follow my foolproof guide to a swoon-worthy at home dinner for two.
1. Pick a place you don’t regularly dine in so the night feels unlike any other. If you usually dine in the kitchen or in front of the tv (oh we all do it!) set the fancy dining room table if you have one. Or, if weather permits, the backyard or patio is one of my favorites. You can also always turn an extra room or garage into a private dining space just for the night.
Image via Home Depot
This week I decided to focus on answering emails having to do with confidence and uncertainty. I hope their questions and my answers inspire you in some way! Thank you to everyone who continues to write me. I love connecting with you all!
My name is Celine and first of all I just wanted to tell you that you are such an inspiring person and one of the best dancers in the world! 🙂 You really inspire me to follow my passions and be the best person that I can be. I don’t want this email to be too long, so my question is how do you manage stressful situations? I’m not good in handling stress and maybe you have some advice 🙂
Lots of love from Germany and I hope you have a lovely day. ♡